Tips on Asking for Help

Background: If you are a “ A Type Personality” person or an individual that struggles with pride, asking for help is usually your last alternative. Asking for help does not mean that you are incapable, incompetent, inept or lazy. It simple means.... you need help. Oftentimes, when someone is unwilling to ask for help, they have either negatively associated the need for help with a negative character attribute or they firmly believe that no one can complete the task at hand better than them. Listed below are a few tips that you can utilize to assist you with asking for help and letting go of pride and negative beliefs that barricade you from receiving assistance.

☞ Question to ponder: What are three things that you FEAR that holds you back from asking for help or what you need?

⇒ Let go of your pride, ego and self-importance.

• Have you noticed that you are willing to accept the request to help others but, you deny others the right to helping you? If you cherish the people in your life and you deem them important, allow them to show you that you are important to them by accepting their willingness to help you.

⇒ Rejection is a part of everyday life and can be difficult to navigate and get over. If you are rejected, when asking for help, is this the end of the world for you? Can anyone else assist and/or help you? Is this person capable of helping you at this moment?

• Rejection is another reason why help is often not sought after by others. As people we fear (here is that word again) asking for help due to the possibility of rejection. When rejected, ask yourself those questions above. The more you conceptualize rejection for what it truly is regarding the context in which you received it in, there will be no need to internalize rejection in a negative way. Yes, rejection stings but, it does not kill.

⇒ Let go of the thought that you are a burden to others.

• Asking for help does not make you a burden. What personal experiences lie underneath the thought of being a burden for you? Who told you, you were a burden the last time you asked for help? When was the last time you asked for help? Let’s place things in their proper perspective, people do not feel like you are a burden, you feel like you are a burden by asking. Allowing others to help you, liberates you to focus on other tasks you need to accomplish in order to achieve your goals.

These practices go beyond the board room, court room, office space or your home office. These practices can be utilized in your relationships, friendships or in general interactions to assist you broadening your capacity to receive. When you are able to ask for what you need, you are able to start receiving those things that you have been too afraid to go after. Not asking for help leaves you in a place of avoidance, void of those things that you really need and want.

LET GO, START ASKING AND BEGIN TO RECEIVE!